Finding time you don’t have…

A lot of people ask me;

Us at the beach
Winter days
Pyjama time
The sisterhood

It’s true, my life is pretty hectic, often busy and rarely quiet. But what I have is limited time, not no time. At least, that’s how I like to see it.

There is time available. I just have to focus to find it, which usually means separating the ‘MUSTS’ from the ‘WANTS’

There are lots of ‘MUSTS’ in my life;

1. I ‘MUST feed my family. I mean literally – buy food, make meals, sit and eat.

2. I ‘MUST’ sleep. ( I know that seems daft but when we are looking for time you won’t find it here!)

These are just some basic examples.

But there are also other things that happen in my life daily that are not ‘MUSTS…like the time I spend scrolling or swiping or watching Netflix. I also like to think of the housework as not necessarily a ‘MUST’ – but truth be told I just don’t like to do it!

These are just some of the things I do but don’t necessarily NEED to – but if I am looking for extra time this is where I’ll usually find it. Even if it is just an hour in an evening.

To find time you have to actively look for time.

When I first started looking for time the evening was the obvious choice. The kids were (usually in bed) and there were a few hours available that I would have usually spent ‘watching something’ before going to bed. This had been my routine, almost a habit, that I was doing on a regular basis because I was exhausted. However, switching this up and introducing art time in an evening quickly became the new habit and now one that I maintain. It allows me to be ‘Mum’ during the day and ‘Me’ at night. It doesn’t work all the time and there is definitely some cross-over at points but that is how I found time!

“If you pick the right small behaviour and sequence it right, then you won’t have to motivate yourself to have it grow. It will just happen naturally, like good seed planted in a good spot.”

BJ FOGG

Changing my evenings habits definitely took a degree of discipline and practice but this was something I wanted to do. I was motivated and I was wanting to do something that I loved – so I just had to remove the barriers that were in the way. ‘Tiny Habits’ by BJ Fogg touches on this theory and it’s well worth a read if you are looking to ‘find time’ and change some habits.

And that’s it – the secret to finding time revealed!! Until next time…

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